“The question still remains….why am I still single? Lord why? I
am a good Christian woman, I have been living right and being obedient to your
word, yet I am still waiting for You to send my prince charming. I look around
and everyone is either married, or in a relationship and on the road to
marriage. When is my Boaz coming Lord? When will I get married and have
children? When Lord when?”
Many of you
single women out there can relate to the above release of frustration to the
Lord, when we feel lonely, someone gets engaged, married or even starts a new
relationship, and you are still alone. You tend to vent to the Lord, as I did
above, when that feeling of loneliness or the feeling that you have somehow
been left behind is been planted by the enemy. There are times when my
circumstances and where I am in life as a single woman doesn’t bother me, but
there are times I vent. I am human and I feel, but in these times I find my way
back to God’s word and resting and believing in His promises.
Hello, I am a single,
saved, Christian woman in her mid-twenties, who has a bachelor’s degree and in
pursuit of another degree. I have no boyfriend, I am still a virgin and it
looks like there are not many prospects in my near future. There have been guys
who have come in my path some all wrong and some that looked like potentials,
but didn’t work out. So here I am still single and waiting on my prince charming.
I look at myself in the mirror and so much doubt comes to mind as I reflect on
my season of singleness. Suddenly, a small still small voice says, “Wait my
daughter, in My time.” I know it’s the Holy Spirit comforting my lonely heart.
Matthew 28:20 (KJV) says, “And lo, I am with you always.” He is always there,
and I realize that I am never alone and I start my journey back to God’s word
and His promises.
One of the first verses
that I go to comes from the book of the prophet Jeremiah. Jeremiah 28:11 (NIV)
says, “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD,
"plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a
future.” It’s a verse that I have applied to my life continually. We have to
fully trust God and believe that He knows what is best. Sometimes it difficult
because we want to see what is going to happen next, we want a peak into our
future. We get to a point in our lives and we are happy about what God has done
in our lives, but we want to know what is next.
For those of us
who are single, we want to know when the husband and kids are going to arrive.
God is an all knowing God, He can see things that we can’t see and this is
where trusting fully in Him comes into play.Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV) says, “Trust
in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own
understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
Some of us can repeat this verse verbatim but there are times where we take our
future into our own hands. We assume God isn’t doing anything and we say to
ourselves let me speed this up.
I remember when a young
man and I started out as friends and we began to get close and he confessed
that he had feelings for me and I confessed that I liked him also. I knew in my
heart that this man was all wrong for me, he was a nice guy, but he didnt’t
know you Father. At first I was so strong and I let him know that it would not
work out, but I said Lord maybe he will get saved eventually and come to know
You. It felt so good to receive long wanted attention from the opposite sex and
feel like someone cared and wanted you, but I realized that God was not pleased
and I went through a time where I knew God gave me a choice, the guy or Him.
Ultimately there was no doubt in my decision, God was my choice. I terminated
any thoughts of ever having a relationship and made it clear what I was seeking
in a mate and letting him know that he was not the one.
There are times when we
as women take matters into our own hands and try to get a man knowing that he
isn’t the one but praying and hoping that God can change him and make him the
one just to speed up this process. But, my sisters, it doesn’t work that way.
God works in His own timing, and not ours. Which can be frustrating to accept at
times, but once we accept it, I have noticed that life becomes easier…
Sometimes it is hard to
fully trust in God’s plans when you have been waiting so long for Him to
finally send your Boaz. I have had only one relationship and it was in high
school. I have been waiting on God for 8 years and there are times I do get
lonely, and ask God when is it going to happen but just recently this past
week, I let go.
For me I fully let
God take the reins in every other aspect of my life, but when it comes to this
part it came to a point where I fully could not let go and after Him sending a
message at church and people in my life to give a testimony, I let it all go in
this aspect. I was like ok God I let go and I let God when it comes to my love
life. I am not going to try and push anything or make anything work that’s not
in Your will for my life. I admit it’s been difficult to just let go but hey
this morning I was like God knows and I need to trust Him in this, it will all
happen in HIS timing. I felt a relief like it doesn’t matter what happens from
hence forth I am going to wait and let God lead and guide me in any
relationship with the opposite sex from this day forward.
I am happy and single
and on fire for God so I am moving forward and you know what I don’t mind
waiting on Him.So the question still remains, Lord why am I still single? Well
some answers to the question could be that you may not be ready yet, God is
teaching you patience, or He is saving you for some special man who has not
come into the picture yet. I don’t know what category you fall into, but it is
my belief that at some point in our season of singleness we fall into all of
these categories, I am now in the latter. I am ready and just waiting for my
prince.
So I want to encourage
you that I know it’s not going to be easy and you will have your days that you
will feel lonely, and wondering why it hasn’t happened for you yet, but know
that God is with you always and that you are beautiful, and a precious gem in
His eyes that He is saving for the right time. Below are Bible verses I want to
leave with you and repeat through the week! I pray this was a blessing to all
who have read!
Love you all and be
blessed,
Daughter of
the King
Bible Verses for the Week
“And lo, I am
with you always.” Matthew 28:20 (KJV)
“For I know the plans I
have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to
harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 28:11 (NIV)
“Trust in the Lord with
all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways
acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV)
“Wait on the LORD: be of
good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.” Psalms
27:14 (KJV)
“But they that wait upon
the LORD shall renew [their] strength; they shall mount up with wings as
eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; [and] they shall walk, and not
faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (KJV)
“And we know that all
things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called
according to his purpose. “Romans 8:28 (KJV)
“Do not be anxious about
anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving,
present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6 (NIV)
Quote For the Week
“In the end,
it’s still best to wait for the one we want rather than settle for what’s
available. It’s still best to wait for the one you love rather than to settle
for the one who’s around. It’s still best to wait for the right person, because
life’s too short to waste on the wrong one.”Unknown
Be blessed by “I Don’t
Mind Waiting” by Juanita Bynum
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ReplyDeleteGod may not ever want you to marry - He may be waiting for you to consecrate yourself to Him - of your own free will give yourself to Him.
ReplyDeleteWell this piece is based on accepting where you are right now as a CHristian and as I said above, I am happy where I am right now and if its not in His will for my life I am fine... but its just the road I took to get where I am at now.
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